Andy and I have been married since 2007. I’m absolutely crazy about him.
We have four kids: three on earth and one in heaven.
Jack is 8, Megan is 5, Kate is 3, and Allison is 18 months old. Ben died just after his fifth birthday.
I’m passionate about faith, family, and kids. Teaching is a part of who I am. I had been a sixth-grade ELA and social studies teacher at Clarence Middle School for six years when I became pregnant for the first time. Since then, I have resigned my position in order to be a full-time mom. I began writing a blog, dedicated to encouraging other moms along their parenting journey. It was called Minute for Mom; you’ll see that we transferred each of those previous entries into this site. I enjoyed cataloguing what I was learning as a stay-at-home mom and loved being able to share it with others.
Our oldest, Jonathan (we’ve always called him “Jack”) is actually an identical twin. Benjamin, however, died in May 2014 of a brain tumor. He had just turned five years old and was otherwise completely healthy. He had a glioblastoma, an aggressive cancer that spread quickly; from the first headache to his funeral, it was just about four months. I had kept a blog to update friends and family of his health status, but the news of our beautiful dimpled and animal-loving little boy captured the hearts of people across WNY. People we didn’t know prayed for us on a daily basis. More than a year later, we are still being sustained by those prayers. Since we had always dressed Ben in blue to help other people tell them apart, friends started the Blue4Ben campaign, which rallied for support and prayers.
Our faith was shaken. Tested. And yet, even through a terrible storm, God proved to be sovereign. Good. Trustworthy. Even in our grief, He continues to give us the grace we need to get through each day.
Even after Ben died, I continued writing on the blog in order to share how God was continuing to carry us after his homegoing. It’s been one year. And now I feel like I’m ready to begin a new chapter. A new section in our story. How I use this site will be similar to what I used to write before Ben got sick: encouragement for moms and other families who love the Lord. Stories, anecdotes, musings, observations, pictures, verses… things I’m learning, things that make me smile, things that may be an encouragement to someone else.
I decided to name it “Another Day Closer.” After we lost Ben, we found ourselves longing for heaven. For the day when we will be reunited with our Creator and all of our loved ones that have gone before us. We marched through each day with purpose, with hope. And always thinking, this is another day closer to heaven. As we continue in our grief and in our parenting, we are always mindful that we are another day closer to heaven… another day closer to being better parents… another day closer to being the person God has created us to be.
This mindset will be the foundation of my thinking. An ode to our son Ben, but also purposeful parenting for our three earthly children as well.
I don’t pretend to have it all together. I don’t pretend to have the answers. But as God provides the inspiration and the opportunity, I will look forward to sharing what He is teaching me in my mothering journey. Another Day Closer.